"Let's talk about sex baby, lets talk about you and me, lets talk about all the good things and all the bad things that may be."

Well I am sure that title got your attention, and it should! This week in class we had such a great conversation on sex and marital intimacy. It was really great to learn about and help prepare for my marriage, as well as get knowledge of what sexual intimacy is all about.
So, lets start off with the 4 stage sex cycle. Now, this was super interesting to learn about because men and woman both have very different sex cycles (same 4 stages and same order just different in how it plays out). So, the 4 stages are excitement, plateau, orgasm, and resolution. Let me first explain how men go through the sex cycle. So, for men they can get easily excited just by looking at their wife, it does not take much to get a man excited. When they move on to plateau, men can stay excited for a decent amount of time, then they orgasm. As soon as they orgasm they very quickly end their resolution, and will be turned off for a little chunk of time. Until the cycle starts again. For women, it takes a lot more time to build excitement, it will not be as easy as it is for men. Woman don't get as turned on just from looking at their husband, but rather get excited through touching and foreplay. As soon as they are excited their plateau is rather short compared to mens, but woman can orgasm many times. Then slowly end to resolution.
Another thing that is interesting about sex is for woman to make sexual connection they need to feel safe and close to their husband before getting into that kind of intimacy, while men it is the opposite they have sexual intimacy and that is how they feel safe and close to women. It is interesting to see how men and woman can be so different, yet they both benefit the same amount from sexual intimacy.
Also, we learned about the "Model of Female Sexual Response" now this was interesting to me to learn about. So this model is a cycle that goes in a circle. The way it goes is: Sexual Stimuli leads to Sexual Arousal which leads to Sexual Desire which leads to Emotional and Physical Satisfaction which leads to Emotional Intimacy. Now what is interesting to me  is how this makes so much sense and how I have never thought about it in this way before, that there is a pattern that women's bodies naturally go too. It would be great if all men were able to recognize this and learn from it.
A fun analogy of how men and women work that I heard in class this week was: "woman are like ovens, they have to be preheated . Men are like microwaves, can just be turned on." I like that analogy a lot because it shows that woman need that extra love and touch (not only physically but emotionally too), while men it is easy to be ready and in the mood. Now, this doesn't apply that all men just always want sex, this just shows that it is easier for men to be ready for sex.
There is just so many good things we learned about this week that I wish I had time to share and expound on. But, one thing I do want to mention is how important it is to stay away from pornography. Pornography can kill relationships, it is a gateway that can lead to things such as infidelity and affairs. It not only kills relationships but miss figures what woman are and shows woman as objects not as real people. Stay away from any pornography in any form, wether it be books, music, movies, commercials, billboards, etc. STAY AWAY!
Until next time!