Have you ever thought about family theories? Like the pattern of your family life? How did you know if you parents were mad at you, even though they didn't say anything?
So this week in class we talked a lot about family theories. What was interesting is when we talked about the patterns we grew up in. Take a minute to think back to your childhood and when you knew your parents were mad at you. How did they react? Did they say anything? Were they silent? I thought back to my parents when they were mad. Both my parents would always just do the silent treatment towards whoever they were mad at. You could always tell they were mad at you because they would talk normally to everyone else in the family except they one that they were mad at. Oddly enough later on in my life on my mission I saw that I was doing those same exact habits. My first companion had the hardest time working with me because she would always say that when I got upset I would "shut down" and not talk to her or isolate myself. When reading about family patterns I realized that was exactly how my parents reacted when they were mad, and I had no idea that i was doing the same thing, even though when growing up I always told myself I wouldn't grow up and act the same as my parents.
Now reflect back on your childhood and think about those reactions to when your parents were upset. Do you do those same patterns? Are you finding that you are more like your parents?
Not only do we tend to react negatively the same, but as well as positively.
Now lets think of how our parents reacted positively when we did something right.. I know for me when I did something good or something that made my parents proud, my dad would come up to me in a very soft voice and say "I am proud of you Tayler" and hug me. And that was it. Nothing more was really said, but that little bit of love and affection was all that I looked for. While my mom approached it a little bit differently, she wouldn't show me much attention, but instead would speak about it to others and brag (probably not the right word but couldn't think of anything else) to her friends and family of my accomplishments. Then pondering on how I react with my fiancee with his accomplishments I find that I am more like my dad and tell him how proud I am and embrace him. It is just funny to see how much I act the same as how my parents reacted with me.
It is interesting to see how much we uncounsiously following in the same way as our up bringing. It defiantly makes you take a step back and reevaluate your life and actions.
I can't wait to find out more and share!
Tayler Roberts
Saturday, January 27, 2018
Wednesday, January 17, 2018
Well, this week was the "official" second week of my Family class. Wow this class is absolutely amazing! I want to share some fun things I was able to learn about.
In this class I have learned a lot about what the world thinks of families and what we (lds) think of families. The world currently finds family life unappealing, statics show that more people are cohabitation together then taking the plunge to get married. What is hard is people don't value marriage like they used too. As a class we talked about reasons people get married and here are some of the reasons we came up with; pregnancy, $$, tradition, love, and attention. After discussing that aspect we talked about why lds people get married and here were some conclusions; eternal life, companionship, physical intimacy, pressure, and love.
It was amazing to see the differences from the worldly aspect and lads aspect. Of course this is just a general assumption, not every one is like this.
With all of this said I think its amazing to see the differences in what people think marriage is to them. I can't wait to dig in more and find why people think this way.
Tell me what you think, I'd love to here.
In this class I have learned a lot about what the world thinks of families and what we (lds) think of families. The world currently finds family life unappealing, statics show that more people are cohabitation together then taking the plunge to get married. What is hard is people don't value marriage like they used too. As a class we talked about reasons people get married and here are some of the reasons we came up with; pregnancy, $$, tradition, love, and attention. After discussing that aspect we talked about why lds people get married and here were some conclusions; eternal life, companionship, physical intimacy, pressure, and love.
It was amazing to see the differences from the worldly aspect and lads aspect. Of course this is just a general assumption, not every one is like this.
With all of this said I think its amazing to see the differences in what people think marriage is to them. I can't wait to dig in more and find why people think this way.
Tell me what you think, I'd love to here.
Wednesday, January 10, 2018
Hey guys,
my name is Tayler Roberts, I am originally from Vancouver Washington, and I loved the cold weather and the northwest is the most beautiful place on this earth. When I turned 19 I had the wonderful opportunity to serve a mission for my church in Pittsburgh Pennslyvania for 18 months. It was the most amazing experience of my life, I loved being able to meet so many wonderful and inspiring people. Also on my mission I was able to meet my incredible finance, who was also another missionary serving there as well. He is defiantly my better half and helps me everyday to become who God wants me to be.
While serving my mission my family moved to Miami Florida, so I was able to come home to Florida and spend time in an immensely humid area. After being home only 3 months we got hit by hurricane Irma, which we stayed home to ride out. It was pretty intense, but there was a miracle that happened from that horrible disaster. After the hurricane there was so much devastation but something amazing occurred, all of the neighbors went outside and started helping each other before themselves. We witness thousands of selfless acts of love towards neighbors, people who didn't even know each other going out and helping. It proved to me that there is still love in this world.
Lastly I am currently going to Brigham Young University Idaho, studying Marriage and Family Studies. And the purpose of this blog is to keep a record of my thoughts of the things I am learning while taking these courses. I hope anyone who reads this will also learn more about the sacred nature of families.
Tayler Roberts
my name is Tayler Roberts, I am originally from Vancouver Washington, and I loved the cold weather and the northwest is the most beautiful place on this earth. When I turned 19 I had the wonderful opportunity to serve a mission for my church in Pittsburgh Pennslyvania for 18 months. It was the most amazing experience of my life, I loved being able to meet so many wonderful and inspiring people. Also on my mission I was able to meet my incredible finance, who was also another missionary serving there as well. He is defiantly my better half and helps me everyday to become who God wants me to be.
While serving my mission my family moved to Miami Florida, so I was able to come home to Florida and spend time in an immensely humid area. After being home only 3 months we got hit by hurricane Irma, which we stayed home to ride out. It was pretty intense, but there was a miracle that happened from that horrible disaster. After the hurricane there was so much devastation but something amazing occurred, all of the neighbors went outside and started helping each other before themselves. We witness thousands of selfless acts of love towards neighbors, people who didn't even know each other going out and helping. It proved to me that there is still love in this world.
Lastly I am currently going to Brigham Young University Idaho, studying Marriage and Family Studies. And the purpose of this blog is to keep a record of my thoughts of the things I am learning while taking these courses. I hope anyone who reads this will also learn more about the sacred nature of families.
Tayler Roberts
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